Global Ecovillage Network/Solution Library/Empathy

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Some people live with a worldview that mankind is evil and people have tendencies to have something bad in mind. This leads to an large number of barriers to communication ­ with others as well as with one yourself.

We have particular fear of criticism and conflict. It might show up as:

• Polarisation (us and them), political, social or race based conflicts.
• Team dynamics, missing commitment.
• Lack of self esteem leading to fear of talking about my visions and plans because of fear of criticism.

Could a greater miracle take place then for us to look through each others eyes for an instant?

— David Henry Thoreau

To step out of the assumption that mankind is “evil” and that people have bad intentions helps to really understand people’s motivation and intention. This means understanding on a rational but also on a heart level. If you reach a level of connection where your heart begins to warm to them ­ that’s what it is. It is like putting yourself into the shoes of another person, role or societal group ­ and not only knowing​this role or acting like this role but really to feel​it.

Understanding others in a compassionate way will smooth your relationships and open unthought of possibilities and potential for creativity. You can also explore the roles and arguments of people you are or need to come into contact with as a preparation of a meeting.

• Diversity & Cohesion.
• Leadership & Governance.
• Trust & Communication.

• Mindfulness & Self Reflection.

• References: patterns: nonviolent communication, process work, transforming enemy images, dialogue, way of council.
• Submitted by: Pioneers of Change.