Bullying is defined by experts as “physical or verbal abuse that occurs repeatedly and involves a power imbalance” Bullying is also repeated action of verbal, physical, social, and cyber abuse.
Bullying is present everywhere. It is present in school, at home, at work, and at public places. Bullying cannot be avoided because you cannot control people’s views and opinions about a certain thing. It takes a certain amount of courage to fight back from bullies. But what are bullies?
Bullies are the people that bully you repeatedly. They may be your family, your schoolmates, your teachers, your officemates, they can be anyone. Bullies can even be the people that posts or comments harsh things about you. One reason that bullies become bullies because they lack attention from someone at home and they often take out their frustration to someone by calling them names, physically abusing them, and many more acts.
Another reason why bullies become bullies is because they watch tv shows or movies that promote violence (Hurley, 2012). From those tv shows and movies, they are influenced to do it to another person. Movies and tv shows can have an impact to kids and if they are exposed to tv shows and movies that showcase violence.
Many cases of bullying are reported almost every month. Statistics shows that:
- More than one out of five students had reported that they were bullied.
- 33% of students had reported that they were bullied at school at least once or twice a month during the entire school year.
- It was shown that there are more reports of female students being bullied (23%) than of male students (19%) being bullied.
- Out of the 33% students that were bullied, 13% were made fun of, called names and was insulted, 12% became the main topic of rumors, 5% were physically harmed, and 5% were eliminated from doing certain activities.
Bullying may lead to a lot of things. It may lead to depression, suicide, self-harm, and other negative things. There are many cases around the world about bullying being the cause of people taking their own lives. It’s sad to think that one act can change someone’s life. That one act can take someone’s life. That one act can make a huge impact to someone’s life and the people that care about them’s life.
There are 4 types of bullying which are the physical, verbal, social, and cyberbullying. All of these are present in school, work, and in other public places. Someone can be bullied in many ways and in very little ways.
Let us break down the four types of bullying.
Beating up someone with no valid reason is a type of bullying. Physical abuse can affect someone’s physical and mental health. Physical bullying usually happens in school. The usual scenario in school is when the bully beats up a student that is slightly weaker. The bully thinks that he is more powerful than the bullying victim which gave him the idea of beating him up whenever he wants. Calling someone “fat”, “ugly”, and making offensive comments may be considered as verbal bullying. Verbal bullying is the most common type of bullying. Imagine the power of someone telling a person an offensive comment and then repeating it almost every day can make a huge impact to someone’s life. When you tell someone an offensive remark, it stays with them. Speaking or talking may require little energy but when you use that little energy to tell someone an offensive remark, it may affect someone greatly.
The most common type of social bullying is making rumor about someone. That rumor will spread, and people will know more about it and later you’ll know that everyone is bullying that someone who was the main topic of that rumor. Social bullying is when a large group of people bullies someone. The people behind why social bullying happened in that place may be influential or known in that place which can be the reason why people believed them easily. A victim of social bullying may feel that he or she is alone which can lead to negative effects in mental and physical health.
In our generation, the generation where everyone has a social media account, it’s easier to bully someone. You can bully someone through social media sites and you can even do it in less than a minute. You can hurt someone’s feelings in a matter of a short time. Cyberbullying is very popular nowadays. Cyberbullying is like verbal bullying but instead, the victim is bullied via social media sites or using technology. This may be sending someone offensive messages or threats, posting offensive or inappropriate pictures of someone without their consent, or publicly shaming them online in the eyes of many netizens. During this generation, many teenagers have taken their own life because of cyberbullying.
A recent case of bullying happened this year. A girl named Amy Everett was known to be the face of a popular Australian brand. Amy loved to take care of animals and little children. She was a victim of cyberbullying and eventually, she had too much so she committed suicide at the age of 14. Many were devastated by her loss and because of that a campaign for anti-bullying began and was promoted by known celebrities. There are many cases like Amy’s all around the world. Many teenagers have taken their own life because of bullying. Bullying, in general, can make an impact on someone’s life to the point of them taking it. A simple mean act can change someone’s perspective of themselves and can question their self-worth.
How can we stop this?
Fortunately, there are many campaigns that are going around promoting anti-bullying. Through social media and the internet, we can help by joining these campaigns made by people who believe that change can happen. We, also, can help by being an example on other people. We can also stand up for those who are bullied.
On Amy’s suicide note, she wrote,
“Speak even if your voice shakes”
Will you speak out even if your voice shakes?
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References[edit | edit source]
- Bazelon, Emily. How Do We Define Bullying? 31 March 2013. Website. 18 March 2018.
- Gross, Gail. What Causes Your Child to Become a Bully? 14 December 2014. Website. 16 March 2018.
- McBride, Jessica. Amy ‘Dolly’ Everett: 5 Fast Facts You Need to Know. 10 January 2018. Website. 18 March 2018.
- National Center for Educational Statistics. "Student Reports of Bullying: Results from the 2015 School Crime Supplement to the National Crime Victimization Survey." December 2016. National Center for Educational Statistics. Document. 18 March 2018.